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kitten whiskers
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JW wife says she loves me more often NOW???? Should I test that?
by oompa ini was pm with a@g and have with others here in the one-in-one-out marriage situation, and have a question.
time flies.....i have been considered apostate for at least two years now, and it seems my wife says she loves me all the time....almost makes me uncomfortable.
i have changed, not her, and i realize that.
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JW wife says she loves me more often NOW???? Should I test that?
by oompa ini was pm with a@g and have with others here in the one-in-one-out marriage situation, and have a question.
time flies.....i have been considered apostate for at least two years now, and it seems my wife says she loves me all the time....almost makes me uncomfortable.
i have changed, not her, and i realize that.
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kitten whiskers
I feel for you Oompa! I hope she is saying she loves you, just because she does. She is probably scared that your differences may push you away from each other. Does your love for her hinge only on the fact that she was a jw and therefore eligible to be your marriage partner back when you believed? I am sure it doesn't. I am not familiar with your entire situation, but to answer your question...I wouldn't test her love. She deserves the same respect you do.
Does she show you she loves you? If she folds the laundry for instance...she is thinking of you each time she hangs up one of your shirts, irons a pair of pants, matches your socks.These chores are done with love. Does she prepare the meals? Offer to get you something while she is up...ex: a drink, snack as you are watching t.v.? She may say it more because she is scared and wants to be assured of your love for her.
I know my hubby had mentally left the jw's and hardly went to a meeting when he was first fading. I was so scared. It took me a while to see the real "truth", but he didn't push me. He waited for me. Some of the most powerful heartfelt conversations happened when I initiated it. He was reluctant to share, he didn't want me going to the elders. Sadly, before my exit, I did betray his trust and ask for a family shepherding call. I felt like I had to save our family and he was dying spiritually. I was so scared to tell him they were coming over. He met them with me...and their treatment of him and questions of meeting attendance, work, etc... got my blood boiling. He is an awesome husband and provider and does everything he can for his family... and for them to smugly sit there in judgment of him PISSED me off. I sat there defending him and realizing what a mistake I had made and hoping he would forgive me. I was scared I had jeopardized our marriage. But my husband LOVES me. I hope you find in your heart that aside from the problems this religion has caused you and her, that you love her.
My husband let me come to him. He supported me. Never made me feel that I couldn't believe as I pleased. He even went with to me conventions as my faith flip flopped back and forth. His support and lack of pressuring me, helped me see his love and question things for myself. You can't force someone to see something. They have to see it for themselves I think. But when the blinders get holes in them,you start to peek out through them and try to see things clearly. Just love her for her if you can. The best conversations I ever had with my husband about his doubts was when I approached him and asked him to share his feelings...while he was in the shower and I climbed in with him to have the conversation. The intimacy of that situation helped us be kind, open and gentle in our conversation. Is there really any better way to have a soul "baring" conversation? lol
I wish you all the best Oompa! I can only imagine how hard it must be to be the one who has left and to want your mate out so bad you can almost taste it. Maybe you could have a date night where you go out and reconnect each week as a couple. As JW's we would sit holding hands during meeting. That was a connection for us at the time. If you did that at the kingdom hall too, she probably misses that time of quiet closeness. Just my rambling thoughts. Again, all the best to you! Hope my viewpoint helps a little. -
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Did you have the bookstudy at your house?
by karter inwe did for many years it was great becouse we had small children.
however you are expected to have a supper now and then after having food droped then ground into the carpet a few times i called it quites on the suppers although i'd invite some for beers after.
one bookstdy conducter announced there was going to be a supper next bookstudy so i announced no there wasen't he spoke to me after something about unwritten rules i said '' the phraseas call it oral trditions"
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kitten whiskers
We had it our house...as a newly married couple.
We had offered to have it in our home. Hubby grew up with it in his parents house and his grandparents house. He was striving to become a m.s. and I was there for him. Here's the corker. They decided to have it at our house, but failed to tell us!!!!
Here I was a new bride, out shopping, and I get a call from my mother-in-law asking if my hubby's uncle the P.O. had called to tell us. Um.NO!!!! I guess they just took us for granted seeing his dad and all of his uncles made up the majority of the elder body. Well....I had to run home and work my head off to get it "clean enough" in my unrealistic mind.for study. Something I have never understood to this day is how in the world everyone assigned to us got notice to come and yet we had no clue! We totally hated having to be sure the house was ready for service on Saturday morning and couldn't just relax and enjoy those sweet honeymoon Saturdays of newlyweds. That sucked.
We also had a sue happy sister in our group, so I diligently tried to make sure the ice was melted and shoveled, etc. I was sure she would sue us if she slipped. And she would complain about her shoes getting cold from being taken off in the entryway/enclosed porch. It was unheated, but I'll be damned if all that slush and snow is coming in my new house after I busted my butt getting it clean for a bunch of judgemental people who didn't help! If it was that bad, buy a portable electric heater and offer it to the host as a gift. There was so much work involved. And I hated that I always felt like I had to be so selfless, that I hardly got to sit on my own funriture after the grueling cleaning session. I enjoyed it especially on cold winter nights or rainy nights! That was the best. And when my hubby was feeling funny and would raise his hand to comment and just say "Jehovah" like a child to get everyone laughing! That was fun. -
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The vacuum cleaner is going to explode!
by easyreader1970 inthe first actual chore i can actually remember being given was to vacuum the living room.
this task was given to me by my mother.
sometimes while vacuuming i might get distracted or maybe just have to go pee.
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kitten whiskers
Cute story! You told it well and made a good comparison to the fear we were fed by the Society! I'm sorry vacuuming is such a life threatening chore! I feel for you, but can't help but laugh too! Ahhhh...the things we are told as kids and the deep impressions they make in our minds! Your poor mother must have been a nervous wreck if she believed that!
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25 years ago today my wife and I were married in a Kingdom Hall
by Thechickennest intoday is our silver wedding anniversary!
little did we know that twenty five years later we would be out of what we now call a cult!
we were such good, active witnesses......we are happier now as a couple.
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kitten whiskers
Congratulations! We're about half way behind you...just had our 12th this weekend! I never did like the pictures taken inside of the kingdom hall for our wedding. I much prefer the outside ones! Isn't it amazing, that the memories of the love shared between you have nothing to do with where the vows took place! It's really true...life just gets better as the years go by. Look how much better it is today! Go and relive that first dance together! Cheers!
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**OUCH!!!**
by Princess Daisy Boo inso i was cooking supper a few hours ago and i broke up a dried birds eye chili with my fingers into my pasta sauce.
now supper is finished and i am relaxing and i get an itchy eye - i rub my eye... &*%$ ... it is 45 minutes later and my eye is still sore!.
what stupid self inflicted injuries have you suffered and what can you recomend for a burning eye?.
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kitten whiskers
Oh yeah! My personal self inflicted injury was about 3 weeks ago. I used the wrong contact solution! I thought I had the everyday one, but I grabbed the one (with the bright red top to alert you) that was for bi-weekly cleaning and required a special case that neutralizes the solution. Wrong case + wrong solution = screaming woman in the morning when she tries to put in the contact! Boy did I make my hubby wake up fast and come running! It was red and bloodshot for nearly 3 days! I cannot believe I was so tired I didn't notice the red cap! I thought I had double checked and remember reassuring myself I had the right one. Augh.
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**OUCH!!!**
by Princess Daisy Boo inso i was cooking supper a few hours ago and i broke up a dried birds eye chili with my fingers into my pasta sauce.
now supper is finished and i am relaxing and i get an itchy eye - i rub my eye... &*%$ ... it is 45 minutes later and my eye is still sore!.
what stupid self inflicted injuries have you suffered and what can you recomend for a burning eye?.
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kitten whiskers
Ok. Ouch! I haven't done this, but I just googled this and found a gardening forum discussion on this. They recommend spraying 100% Aloe Vera on a tissue and then rubbing on eye area. Two people on there said it worked for them. They also recommended after slicing the peppers, to put vegetable oil on hands and then dish soap and wash. Then wash hands with vinegar. Hope it helps. My personal thought is...would a piece of bread soaked in cold milk and then placed on your eye as you rest help? Just a thought. They say they are helpful to eat when you burn your mouth. I can't see that it would hurt anything. I hope you are feeling better soon!
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Manners for Minors
by Princess Daisy Boo incheck out this website:.
http://www.manners4minors.co.za.
i cant decide if this is a clever idea or a really sad reflection on society!.
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kitten whiskers
IMO- it is a transfer of responsibility! This is something we as parents should be constantly teaching our children. A half hour class isn't a substitute for a parents good example and training! I found it a very sick concept. But I am sure there are many who will spend the money to send their children. Did you see the princess puppet and the "money" they earn? Ugh. I don't want these as examples for my children! It seems to be a lesson for low self-esteem and jealousy. As I was taught at home, "No, thank you."
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Remember the "last warning for Babylon the Great" WT series of four?
by kitten whiskers ini remember a series of four watchtowers that we "zealously" placed to issue the "final warning to babylon the great".
they all had pictures (if i remember correctly) of the harlot in revelation.
i think the pictures were all taken from the revelation climax book.
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kitten whiskers
I remember a series of four Watchtowers that we "zealously" placed to issue the "final warning to Babylon the Great". They all had pictures (if I remember correctly) of the harlot in Revelation. I think the pictures were all taken from the Revelation Climax book. I have wondered if in the past few years if they have issued another series or anything similar to these. It was stressed over and over and made a big deal of, that this was her final warning from Jehovah, blah, blah, blah.....It would never be repeated. You remember all the hype of it don't you? Anyway, I have been waiting to laugh at that when they issue another article of warning. Have any of you heard of or seen anything like this? Even though I was a faithful JW then, I thought it positively odd to make such a statement when only Jehovah knew the end. (All these things do add up and helped me see my out!) Any observations? Any Watchtowers that have been for the public that have focused on this that you know of? It is just one more thing to add to list of lies for me.
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Are you going to celebrate Easter?
by real one ineaster is coming soon and i am so excited!
i have not celebrated easter in over 17 years.
what a relief to be able to enjoy the worship of jesus and to be so grateful and thankful for his sacrafice.
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kitten whiskers
"Here comes Peter Cottontail...hopping down the bunny trail...hippity hoppity Easter's on it's way....."
Yes. Yes. And Yes again!!! I already have the baskets, candy, toys and grass all ready to go! Hubby and I get a visit too! I remember my grandma putting out easter baskets for us when we spent the night and there is nothing sweeter than biting off that chocolate rabbit ear! This will be our third Easter. I did baskets for us all the first year, we wound up traveling for a family emergency last year, but the bunny found the kids, this year we all get a visit again! It is sooooooo much fun shopping and thinking of the memories the kids will have! I really missed not going to church last year for the special services, so we will have to go this year! Our first year we went to a Baptist church and it was beautiful! This year will be our new church that we've gone to for a year and a half. I can hardly wait!